“Well, I’m very old fashioned… a woman should be spoiled. Ask Marilyn, Audrey and Elizabeth (Taylor) to name but a few…”
That was the answer from one of my regular readers who believes in the traditional idea of a one-sided exchange of jewels for an engagement.
So a proposal tends to involve a few key ingredients:
+ a ring (usually diamond ring or ring with diamonds, to quote Samantha from SATC)
+ somebody getting down on one knee to pop “the question”
+ 3 month’s salary
+ sandy beach in the Maldives/Norwegian fjord/hot air balloon over the Galapagos islands with views of the 417 kg tortoises
According to the American Gem Society, the history of a diamond rings date back to
“Anthropologists believe this tradition originated from a Roman custom in which wives wore rings attached to small keys, indicating their husbands’ ownership. In 1477, Archduke Maximillian of Austria commissioned the very first diamond engagement ring on record for his betrothed, Mary of Burgundy.”
If it’s a matter of ownership does that mean each person should “get” the other something? I wonder. Not as a material token, more as a token of appreciation. It’s hard to tell in this 2018 world we live in whether there is more to it than a simple gesture. Or if it’s a slightly loaded topic.
I find it slightly odd that it’s become a hot topic in recent years. Ultimately each couple should decide what works best for them and their situation, sandy beach or no sandy beach. We’re all writing the ending to our own fairytale. For some that includes a handcrafted work of art in the form of jewellery. For others, sharing a beautiful moment with the one they love at the base of Mount Everest is a gem in itself.